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|18-03-2020 (857 lectures)
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Falling in¬†love with someone you can‚Äôt have can seriously affect your self-esteem and self-confidence. You feel unhappy, dissatisfied with yourself, and even depressed. Obviously, you should get rid of¬†these feelings as¬†soon as¬†possible. We¬†are going to¬†tell you what to¬†do¬†in¬†order to¬†get over your unrequited love and start living a¬†new life without the object of¬†your passion.
Bright Side collected some pieces of¬†advice that will help you forget about your pain after a¬†love failure.
If¬†one day you think that your beloved one loves you back but on¬†another day they disappear for a¬†week, it¬†means that there‚Äôs definitely no¬†love there. Try to¬†look at¬†your love from a¬†different perspective. Does it¬†look like a¬†classic romance? If¬†you can admit that your beloved one doesn‚Äôt love you back, you are on¬†the right path.
Next time you want to¬†meet this person or¬†call them, just think about how they usually feel about you. When you show how much you care about them, all they feel toward you is¬†condescension. Do¬†you want to¬†be¬†a¬†slave crawling around your master‚Äôs feet? It‚Äôs better to¬†do¬†something more pleasant.
Out of¬†sight, out of¬†mind. This should be¬†your motto if¬†you want to¬†get over your unrequited love. Stay as¬†far away as¬†possible from your beloved one. If¬†you can, the best option for you would be¬†to¬†go¬†on¬†a¬†long trip where you won‚Äôt be¬†able to¬†connect to¬†the internet (stop checking all their social media accounts!).
If¬†you can‚Äôt avoid meeting this person completely, try to¬†keep your thoughts far away from them. Even if¬†the person you love is¬†in¬†the same room as¬†you, it¬†doesn‚Äôt mean that you should always think of¬†them. Turn the stream of¬†your thoughts to¬†another direction. Think of¬†your personal dreams and desires, not of¬†the happiness in¬†your relationships.
You are not the only person who has relationship problems. Many people have experienced the pain of¬†unrequited love, and they got past¬†it. Tell your close ones about your feelings. Ask them how they survived it¬†and what they did to¬†release the pain. Sometimes all you need is¬†to¬†hear simple words like, ‚ÄúHow well¬†I understand you.‚ÄĚ
But don‚Äôt make the common mistake of¬†starting to¬†get pleasure from dwelling on¬†this topic. Otherwise, you will constantly think of¬†one person and won‚Äôt forget them at¬†all. You need only a¬†couple of¬†good talks to¬†feel better.
If¬†you don‚Äôt feel like talking to¬†anybody about your personal issues, turn to¬†the arts. The theme of¬†unrequited love is¬†extremely popular, and it‚Äôs easy to¬†find lots of¬†books and films that will help you to¬†get over someone.
When you are absorbed in¬†your dark thoughts, you usually start neglecting yourself. Even if¬†you feel nothing but pain, even if¬†you can‚Äôt do¬†anything, take care of¬†your appearance and health. Take a¬†warm bubble bath with salts. Make a¬†cup of¬†tasty herbal tea, and drink it¬†with pleasure. Go¬†shopping, and buy new clothes. Change your hairstyle.
Don‚Äôt think about starting to¬†smoke (or¬†don‚Äôt smoke more than you usually¬†do) or¬†drink. Don‚Äôt make rash decisions or¬†actions, especially if¬†they are dangerous to¬†your health or¬†life. You may want to¬†occupy yourself with self-destroying and hope that your beloved one will see and understand your pain¬†‚ÄĒ but they won‚Äôt. And you will get only damaged nerves.
There are many ways to¬†restore your emotional balance. The most effective of¬†them is¬†physical exercises. They can help you to¬†get rid of¬†your negativity. Start jogging every morning or¬†go¬†to¬†fitness classes. Go¬†to¬†the gym or¬†to¬†a¬†swimming pool. Learn how to¬†ride a¬†horse¬†‚ÄĒ you will definitely get a¬†lot of¬†positive emotions from communication with animals.
If¬†you want to¬†combine sports and arts, start dancing. Turn up¬†your favorite songs, and dance for as¬†long as¬†you are able to¬†move. Go¬†to¬†a¬†dance studio, and learn how to¬†dance the tango or¬†rumba. You will have fun and get in¬†shape at¬†the same time.
There‚Äôs a¬†good Indian proverb: If¬†your horse is¬†dead, dismount. Don‚Äôt indulge yourself with hopeless dreams. There isn‚Äôt anything more destroying than waiting for someone to¬†love you back. If¬†you see that someone doesn‚Äôt pay enough attention to¬†you, don‚Äôt try to¬†justify them. They are not too embarrassed to¬†show their love; they just don‚Äôt feel¬†it.
If¬†a¬†person doesn‚Äôt love you back, they can find a¬†thousand excuses not to¬†spend time with you. Just imagine yourself in¬†the following situation: if¬†you don‚Äôt want to¬†go¬†to¬†a¬†party or¬†a¬†date, how do¬†you usually act?
Love failures are a¬†part of¬†life. If¬†something goes contrary to¬†your plans, you shouldn‚Äôt start hating yourself or¬†all the representatives of¬†the opposite sex. Believe that you will see your own happy ending. And don‚Äôt wish bad luck on¬†your beloved one¬†‚ÄĒ they don‚Äôt have to¬†make sacrifices for your happiness.
Put yourself in¬†this person‚Äôs shoes: are you ready to¬†live your whole life with someone you feel only pity for? It‚Äôs better to¬†think of¬†all the good memories you had together and go¬†on¬†with a¬†smile on¬†your face.
Think like a¬†philosopher. Create a¬†personal motto, and always remember it¬†when you feel depressed. This short phrase should restore your inner peace and make you believe in¬†a¬†better future. King Solomon had a¬†ring with the phrase ‚ÄúThis too shall pass‚ÄĚ inscribed on¬†it. Remember these words, and your life will be¬†easier.
Do¬†you have your own pieces of¬†advice on¬†how to¬†deal with unrequited love? Share your experience in¬†the comments!